It finally happened...
...my mum asked if I wanted her to introduce a girl to me.!?!?!?
Mum called yesterday and almost inevitably I got the question, "Have you found a girlfriend yet?" After I answered "no", she went through the usual stuff:
- Why not?
- Is it that hard (to find one)?
- It can't be that hard, all your cousins, etc, in NZ have found partners.
- You'd better start searching, you'll be 30 soon.
Haha, at some point she asked me if I wanted her to introduce a girl to me, saying something about someone's daughter. I'm not even sure if she has met the girl herself, but apparently she's in uni and her mum wants her to meet someone (well, that's the impression I got... why else would my mum be suggesting this unless her mum and my mum were in cahoots?).
At any rate I was laughing at this point. I told mum that things just weren't done like this these days. She said something along the lines of, there's nothing wrong with it, it's not like you have to marry the girl, just see how it turns out.
Never mind the fact that she's in Auckland and I'm in Canberra. As if such a thing could deter a mum from wanting to arrange such things for their children.
Actually, my fundamental problem with set-ups is that if I'm aware of what's going on, then instantly things are awkward. Though I'm sure it would cause no small amount of amusement for my friends if were to tell them one day, "Well, I met (insert female name here) when my mum introduced her to me". As much as I like entertaining people, I don't think I'm quite ready for that step =P
Of course the more significant issue would be that what my mum would consider a good wife would likely differ substantially from what I would consider a good wife. For starters, she would have to love the Lord. I'm not sure what her other characteristics would be, but this is the uncompromisable element to it all. As for everything else? Well, I've been alive long enough to realise that whatever plans or expectations I have generally don't accord with what the Lord has in mind for me, unless He plans for me to be single that is.
Anyway, this particular facet of my life is well out of my control. As with everything, it is in God's hands, and I know that he has in mind the best for me, even if I cannot see it at times.
There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace
- Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
posted by Son @ 14:33
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